No Room At The Table Unless You’ve Been Invited

SCRIPTURE STUDY:  Matthew 22:1-14

CRAZY THINGS can happen at a wedding:

“How did the wedding go?” asked the pastor’s wife.  “Fine, dear, until I asked the bride whether she would ‘Love, honor, and OBEY her husband.’  “She looked at me and said, ‘Do you think I’m crazy?’  Then she looked at the Groom, who awakening from a dream, said, “I DO!”  Then things really started to happen!”

In the culture of this biblical setting in Matthew, TWO invitations were expected, the FIRST to inform the guest there was going to be a wedding.  The SECOND was to let everyone know that everything was ready!

Jesus used PARABLES for comparisons, stories used to illustrate and explain and emphasize His point.

Who Are the “THEMS” Jesus is speaking to?

They are the Jewish religious leaders, the Pharisees, and Sadducees.  The ‘finger pointers’ of the day.

In Matthew 13, the disciples asked Jesus why He spoke in PARABLES.  Jesus answered that those who love the TRUTH will understand the PARABLES and those who don’t love the TRUTH will not understand His PARABLES.  It wasn’t because God was hiding the TRUTH from them, it was because they didn’t want to hear the TRUTH.


We see that the king has sent out THREE invites.

Number ONE isn’t written down but the people of the time would have known that the GUESTS had already been informed of the WEDDING.

Number TWO was when he sent the servants out to tell everyone the BANQUET was ready, and afterward, everyone refused to come.

The THIRD invitation went out and some had other things to do and ignored the invitation while others grabbed the messengers and insulted them and killed them.

This is about the rejection of the Jews.  The prophets were rejected by the Jewish people, most of the Jews ignored John the Baptist, and they killed Jesus.  So this PARABLE in Matthew 22 must have hit home with the Jewish leaders.

Then the king opens up the invitation to everyone, the good, the bad and the ugly to use a cliché.

He told the servants to go out on the streets–are you ready for this all you “servants for the Lord”–you followers of Christ?– open the invitation to all!

The BANQUET HALL had been readied and it was filled with guests but one wasn’t dressed for the occasion.  Athletic gear perhaps? (just a reference).  So the king asked him why and he didn’t have an answer, so the king had him tied up and thrown out.

And Jesus ended the PARABLE with this statement:  “for many are called but few are chosen.”

So you may be asking why the King was so harsh on this man, after all, he did come on short notice.

What I’ve come to understand is that the King would have provided the wedding clothes for unsuspecting guests, and for whatever reason, arrogance or just plain, “you’re not gonna tell me what to wear,” kind of attitude.  So he threw him out where there were great weeping and gnashing of teeth.  Have you ever heard people in their sleep grinding their teeth?  It sounds really annoying I’ve been told.

It’s plain to see that this parable is about the rejection of Jesus by the Jews and the invitation to the Kingdom of heaven being opened to the Gentiles.

It’s a great thing that you and I have been invited to the banquet but something in the parable when you think about it bothers some.

The “something” is that the GUEST got tossed out.

It bothers people not everyone is going to make it to the right side of ETERNITY–it troubles us when we realize that not everyone will make it to heaven.

There’s a current societal mindset out there in the world that all roads lead to God and that any religion will get you to heaven.  Don’t be fooled by this misconception.  JESUS said that He was the way, The Truth & the Life and no one came to the Father except through Him.

Scripture is clear that not everyone will make it to heaven.

Matthew 7:13-14 (NIV)

[13] “Enter through the narrow gate.  For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  [14] But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life and only a few find it.”

Matthew 7:21 (AMP)

[21] Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father Who is in heaven.

Matthew 25:32 (NIV)

[32] All the nations will be gathered before Him, and He will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats.


Yes, we’ve ALL been invited, the passage of scripture makes it clear as well as other scripture in the Bible.

Isaiah 55:1 (AMP)

[1]  WAIT and listen, everyone who is thirsty!  Come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat! Yes, come, buy [priceless, spiritual] wine and milk without money and without price [simply for the self-surrender that accepts the blessing].

Revelation 22:17 (NIV)

[17]  The Spirit and the bride say, “Come!” And let the one who hears say, “Come!” Let the one who is thirsty come, and let the one who wishes take the free gift of the water of life.

You see we have ALL BEEN INVITED, we have all been given an opportunity to put on the wedding clothes of righteousness.  

The but is…each person must choose to put it on!

But some are just too busy, some reject the invitation outright and some think they can sit at the table going unnoticed.  That’s not how it works.


We don’t get into the BANQUET unless we have JESUS as our Savior.



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“Shout! It’s Midnight And The Bridegroom Is Here!”

MATTHEW 25:6: “But at midnight there was a shout,  Behold, the bridegroom!  Go out and meet him.


My grandson is getting married to a lovely girl on the 4th of July.  My wife and I asked him why on the 4th?  He answered us by saying, “At least we won’t forget our Anniversary.”  I don’t think he was serious, just giving his grandparents something to ponder, grinning the whole time at the blank stare on our faces.

Today’s groom stands at the front of auditorium, facing the invited guests.  Perhaps pulling out his handkerchief, wiping his perspiring forehead in expectation.  And then, the bride walks down the long aisle in all her arraignment, with music playing, and the people who are standing with bent necks, anticipating her arrival to her awaiting bridegroom.


This story meshes well with what we know of marriage customs in the ancient near east.  If the groom did not live to far from the bride’s home, he had some close friends go to her home (usually the home of her father or brother) where various preliminary festivities and ceremonies would take place.  Then there would be a procession through the streets, commonly after nightfall, to the home of the groom, where the main festivities would take place, often for many days.  Guests and even some of the “bridesmaids” might wait along the way to the groom’s house, intending to join the procession.  Everyone in the procession was expected to carry his or her own torch.  Those without a torch could safely be assumed to be “party crashers” or even brigands (Marriage customs of old were found in, God With Us- Themes From Matthew by D. A. Carson).

MATTHEW 25:1-13 AMP.

[1]  “THEN THE kingdom of heaven shall be likened to ten virgins who took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom.  [2]  Five of them were foolish (thoughtless, without forethought) and five were wise (sensible, intelligent, and prudent).  [3]  For when the foolish took their lamps, they did not take any [extra] oil with them;  [4]  But the wise took flasks of oil along with them [also] with their lamps.  [5]  While the bridegroom lingered and was slow in coming, they all began nodding their heads, and they all fell asleep.  [6]  But at midnight there was a shout, Behold, the bridegroom!  Go out to meet him!  [7]  Then all those virgins got up and put their own lamps in order.  [8]  And the foolish said to the wise, Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.  [9]  But the wise replied,  There will not be enough for us and for you; go instead to the dealers and buy for yourselves.  [10]  But while they were going away to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were prepared went in with him to the marriage feast; and the door was shut.  [11]  Later the other virgins also came and said, Lord, Lord, open [the door] to us!  [12]  But He replied, I solemnly declare to you, I do not know you [I am not acquainted with you].  [13]  Watch therefore [give strict attention and be cautious and active], for you know neither the day nor the hour when the Son of Man will come.”


Everyone likes a good story.  A few people like poetry, a few others like technical studies, and still others delight in ABSTRACT thought and advanced philosophy.  But everyone LIKES a good story.

Many PARABLES Jesus told were a certain kind of story.  The word “parable” itself can cover an immense range of literature: it can, among other things, refer to a proverb (Luke 4:23), a nonverbal symbol or image (Hebrews 9:9), or an obscure saying (Matthew 15:35), some kind of comparison without the benefit of a plot (Matthew 15:15), and so much more.

But in Matthew 25:1-13, I was interested in a parable that tells us a story.  All the elements in the story fit the story itself; but the story as a whole, and sometimes some of its parts, shed light on something outside the story, because that “something” is usually said to be like what takes place in the story.  And if the story has a surprise ending, it can very quickly communicate large new horizons of understanding to the readers (that’s you and me), or the hearer (that’s you and me)!


It has been reported that every year, at least a half-million people in America call for help because they have run out of gas.  Besides flat tires, dead batteries, misplaced keys (sorry honey), running out of fuel ranks right up there with the reasons why people call for roadside assistance.

I can understand this happening a generation or two ago, when gas gauges were not entirely accurate; when warning lights of our day were non-existent.  But now we have automatic, verbal warning messages, telling us that the fuel is running low; giving us perhaps and hour or more of driving.  And that’s not enough.  Progressively, urgent warnings, indicating just how many estimated miles of driving we have left.  So one might say, most people running out of gas…are without excuse.

The verses in Matthew 25, it’s NOT gasoline that’s lacking but “oil”; the FUEL burned in lamps during Jesus’ day.  By this detective work, I believe the five foolish virgins really didn’t “run out” of oil; they never had it to begin with!

“EXTRA OIL” (verse 3).

There is a footnote in the NET Bible (New English Translation) that says the word “extra” is not found in the Greek text.  It has been inserted in some translations because of the context implied.  So why do we think that the 5 BRIDESMAIDS brought any oil at all?  Perhaps because of what it says in verse 8:  “…for our lamps are going out.”


The word used for LAMP in Matthew 25:1-13 is the word, Lampas.  They were NOT like what my wife has collected over our married life: no glass chimney, no wick or adjusting device, nor attached tank where the oil could be stored.

The LAMPS were similar to the picture above: large, flat, bowl with a rag-like “wick” that could be attached to a pole for an outdoor torch to illuminate one’s steps in the darkness.

What were the reasons that the WISE VIRGINS brought oil?  The “oil” was carried in flasks and added to the lamps in time of need.  I believe there must have been some residue of oil on the rag or wick on the 5 EMPTY LAMPS, that quickly burned out after being lit.  That might explain why all 5 torches went out at the same time.

Perhaps, too, these foolish ‘ladies’ wanted to minimize their foolishness; describing their dilemma as “going out” to look less foolish.

Being Prepared!  That’s The bottom Line.

Whether the oil represents:  your faith, the Holy Spirit, or Christian character.  It really doesn’t matter.  Why?  Because each feeds the other.  It could be any or all three Jesus had in mind.  The MAIN MESSAGE is to be READY, PREPARED, ALL AT THE SAME TIME!

Even though He DELAYS:

I heard a story once, about a young couple’s first date as they were recounting the events in a small bible study group.

The young lady was all dressed up, looking beautiful and patiently awaiting for her date to arrive.  After time had passed for his arrival by an hour, she decided, I’ve been ‘stood up’ on this date.  So, she took off her make-up, got into her pajamas, made some popcorn, and decided to watch her favorite DVD movie, with her dog, curled up on the couch.

Then, the door bell rang and she went to the door to see who it might be.  It was HER DATE!  He looked somewhat amazed and said, “I’m two hours late and you’re not ready?”

JESUS said, don’t let My return sneak up on you.  Be ready at all times:

“For you yourselves know perfectly well that the day of the [return of the] Lord will come [as unexpectedly and suddenly] as a thief in the night.  When people are saying, All is well and secure, and,  There is peace and safety, then in a moment unforeseen destruction (ruin and death) will come upon them as suddenly as labor pains come upon a woman with child; and they shall by no means escape, for there will be no escape.  But you are not in [given up to a power of] darkness, brethren, for that day to overtake you by surprise like a thief”  (1 Thessalonians 5:22-4 AMP).


Jews often went to weddings and wedding were common in Jesus’ day (His first miracle was performed at a wedding celebration).  Since Jesus was telling this parable to the DISCIPLES (His followers) and not to the religious left (Pharisees, Sadducees and scribes), I believe that the “ten” represented the Church as a whole [Ephesians 5:23-32; Revelation 22:17]. 

“The [Holy] spirit and the BRIDE (the church, the true Christians) say, Come!” (Revelation 22:17).

THE LAMPS WERE… Olive Oil Lamps.

In this story, Matthew 25:1-13;

JESUS=the bridegroom.




This parable is more like an allegory than a parable that has one primary point!  There must be PRETENDERS and TRUE BELIEVERS (true worshipers) present in today’s Church:


“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, pretenders (hypocrites)!  For you are like tombs that have been whitewashed, which LOOK BEAUTIFUL on the outside but inside are full of dead men’s bones and everything impure”  (Matthew 23:27).


“A time will come, however, indeed it is already here, when the TRUE (genuine) WORSHIPERS will worship the Father in spirit and in truth (reality); for the Father is seeking just such people as these as His worshipers”  (John 4:23 AMP).


“While the bridegroom lingered and was slow in coming, they all began nodding their heads, and they fell asleep”  (verse 5).

You might think that only the 5 “FOOLISH” BRIDESMAIDS would have fell asleep while the 5 WISE VIRGINS would have been working and preparing for the marriage feast.  But that was not the case.  We are SAVED by God’s MERCY AND GRACE and NOT by our WORKS.


There’s no moral blame attached to the sleeping; both the wise and the foolish virgins succumb to drowsiness.  But the groom’s delay distinguishes between the wise and the foolish.  The former prepare for the possibility of the groom’s delay by bring EXTRA oil, and the latter are unprepared.  With that said, the preparedness of the wise can neither be transferred nor shared: 

“Watch therefore [give strict attention and be cautious and active], for you know neither the day nor the hour when the Son of Man will come” (25:13).

I have heard over the years, people in the Church telling others, “I’ve always been a Christian!”; “My mom and dad were deacon and deaconess”; “My mom and dad, their mom and dads; and their…we’ve always been a Christian family.”  Those testimonies are all well and fine, however, as personal salvation is just that!  It’s a personal choice! Like the “oil”, it can’t be transferred nor shared.


The “foolish” members of the wedding party were told to go out and purchase their own oil (Matthew 25:9).  As the five were out ‘doing their thing’, the torchlight parade took place.

The groom and the 5 Wise members entered the celebration hall and the doors were closed.  The foolish five, then came with what they should have already dad but…it was too little, too late.  They weren’t allowed to enter and join in the wedding celebration.  Even then, the five virgins pled, “Lord, Lord, open [the door] to us!”  But they were sent away with the words,  I don’t know you!”

JESUS then concludes this parable in applying this principle to His disciples (and thus the Church).  He urges His disciples to:  WATCH!  UNDERSTAND! BE READY!

In Matthew 24:42-44, we see all three PREPARATIONS.  The Greek Word for WATCH; gregoreo; meaning “spiritual alertness.”

JESUS also reminds and warns us as His disciples in this parable, there will be a number of people who look like Christians, who associate with Christians, who even think they’re Christians (“pretenders”); who will be shocked to learn they are NOT saved at the return of the Lord.

This blog is not seeking to create uncertainty or doubt in the heart of the Christian.  I am not seeking to rob the Christian of his assurance.  But the blog IS seeking to warn those who have a FALSE assurance but NOT salvation.

“BUT UNDERSTAND this, that in the last days will come (set in) perilous times of great stress and trouble [hard to deal with and hard to bear].  For people will be lovers of self and [utterly] self-centered, lovers of money and aroused by an inordinate [greedy] desire for wealth, proud and arrogant and contemptuous boasters.  They will be abusive (blasphemous, scoffing), disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane,  [they will be] without natural [human] affection (callous and inhuman), relentless (admitting of no truce or appeasement); [they will be] slanderers (false accusers, troublemakers), intemperate and loose in morals and conduct. uncontrolled and fierce, haters of good.  [They will be] treacherous [betrayers], rash, [and] inflated with self-conceit.  [They will be] lovers of sensual pleasures and vain amusements more than and rather than lovers of God”  (2 Timothy 3:1-4).

“For [although] they hold a form of piety (true religion) [‘they will maintain the outward appearance’], they deny and reject and are strangers to the power of it [their conduct belies the genuineness of their profession]”  (verse 5).