Colossians 4:5-6 (Amplified Bible – AMP):
 Behave yourselves wisely [living prudently and with discretion] in your relations with those of the outside world (the non-Christians), making the very most of the time and seizing (buying up) the opportunity.
 Let your speech at all times be gracious (pleasant and winsome), seasoned [as it were] with salt, [so that you may never be at a loss] to know how you ought to answer anyone [who puts a question to you].
Colossians 4:5-6 (New King James Version – NKJV):
 Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time.
 Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.
Sitting Around the THANKSGIVING Table with Family and Friends
After enjoying a scrumptious and thankful meal my daughter had spent the whole day preparing, my wife and I sat around the table, listening to the diverse conversation. Every topic, from future vacations, work related issues, current events, and what ingredients went into the “bread pudding,” to…“There are ghosts that live in my barn.”
As my wife and I looked at each other, I whispered in her ear, “Where is JESUS in all this?”
I had asked God’s blessing on our family prior to the Thanksgiving Feast, but where was JESUS at our table? What could I have said that could have been “seasoned with salt,” yet with grace and wisdom at the same time. It almost seemed like ‘walking, talking and chewing gum, at the same time and not spitting out the gum. Is that even possible to accomplish?
So what did I do? I tucked the wad of gum, my unspeakable thoughts, to the back of my cheek…and just listened; not commenting, not wanting my speech to fall on deaf ears.
Was that the correct reaction?
I NEEDED WISDOM!
Our “CONDUCT” Our “BEHAVIOR”…
Conduct (Behavior), is in the present tense (v 5), meaning a continual action. Not just for ‘special occasions’, but our behavior is to be continual–calling for believers to continually walk in WISDOM and TRUTH, no matter where they might be in place and time. And for most of us, that can seem almost impossible as “walking, talking and chewing gum” at the same time.
Paul is not commanding us to do anything that GOD’S POWER has not provided the potential for us to accomplish ahead of time. The apostle is calling us for a continuous, supernatural walk, which demands continual reliance on a Supernatural Source (The Holy Spirit).
Our responsibility then, is to continually work at our salvation with truth, fear and trembling as God in us, continually gives us the DESIRE AND POWER.
Philippians 2:12: “work out (cultivate, carry out to the goal, and fully complete) your own salvation with reverence and awe and trembling (self-distrust, with serious caution, tenderness of conscience, watchfulness against temptation, timidly shrinking from whatever might offend God and discredit the name of Christ)” ~ AMP bible.
So Paul is writing about the PRACTICAL; how we, as disciples of Christ, are to WALK & TALK before the skeptical watching world. And yes, that does include members of our families and friends who are unbelievers and who need our compassion.
As the old saying is true, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
WALKING THAT “WISE WALK”…TALKING THAT “SALTY” TALK
God calls all of us to LIVE lives of LOVE amongst each other. To HELP our neighbors…to become a family, a community church of believers, that helps one another.
We must strive to always “be holy for He is holy” and “do all as unto the Lord.”
- Walk in WISDOM toward them that are without.
- Speak words of GRACE in LOVE.
- We are the SALT OF THE EARTH – Without “salt” we will lose our savor (effectiveness), our essence to the unbeliever.
To Speak With Words That Are Full of Grace
The phrase “gracious” means ‘always with grace’ – ‘to be full of grace’ – overflowing with grace! Grace also means “Favor”.
The word also carries with it the idea of the Lord’s influence upon our hearts…His unmerited favor (GRACE) and its reflection in our own life.
We Also Know the Tongue Has Incredible Power…(the power of life & death) For Good or Evil (Book of James is full of these words about the “tongue”).
A “KIND” Word Can Go A Long Way –
Think of a young boy with his first try at baseball and someone speaks words of encouragement as he steps up to the plate: “Way to go, slugger!”
Proverbs 10:20-21 (AMP):
 The tongues of those who are upright and in right standing with God are a choice silver; the minds of those who are wicked and out of harmony with God are of little value.  The lips of the [uncompromisingly] righteous feed and guide many, but fools die for want of understanding and heart.
- Love to give COMPLIMENTS.
ie. – Drive up window at McDonald’s…(mean) or (nice_loving).
A MEAN or HURTFUL WORD CAN BREAK YOUR HEART!
James 3, tells us that a TONGUE used wrongly…
The Message bible (verses 5-6):
“It only takes a spark, remember to set off a forest fire. A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.”
That’s pretty powerful!
Speaking With Grace Has A Requirement
To SPEAK with GRACE we will need GRACE in our hearts.
Colossians 3:16 (AMP):
Let the word [spoken by] Christ (the Messiah) have its home [in your hearts and minds] and dwell in you in [all its] richness, as you teach and admonish and train one another in all insight and intelligence and wisdom [in spiritual things, and as you sing] psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, making melody to God with [His] grace in your hearts.
Why do we need GRACE in our hearts?
Luke 6:45 (AMP):
The upright (honorable, intrinsically good) man out of the good treasure [stored] in his heart produces what is upright, and the evil man out of the evil storehouse brings forth that which is depraved (wicked and intrinsically evil); for out of the abundance (overflow) of the heart his mouth speaks.
- A person who says kind things, has a kind heart.
- A person who says negative things, has a negative heart.
- A person who says mean things, has a mean heart.
What’s on the INSIDE, is likely to come out!
Colossians 3:17 tells us what happens when you have GRACE on the INSIDE:
“And whatever you do [no matter what it is] in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus and in [dependence upon] His Person, giving praise to God the Father through Him.”
DO ALL IN THE NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS!
This means with His Approval!
Do it His way!
Would the Lord approve of your SPEECH around others?
No one who CURSES, SWEARS, LIES, GOSSIPS, RUNS OTHERS DOWN…is letting the Word of Christ dwell in them richly.
** You’ll have a hard time yelling at another driver…in Jesus’ name.
** Saying unkind things to your husband or wife…in Jesus’ name.
** Saying negative things in the positive Name of Jesus.
Proverbs 12:13: “The wicked is [dangerously] snared by the transgression of his lips, but the [uncompromisingly] righteous shall come out of trouble.”
Proverbs 16:13: “Right and just lips are the delight of a king, and he loves him who speaks what is right.”
Proverbs 23:16: “Yes, my heart will rejoice when your lips speak right things.”
Something is NEEDED first, before we can have GRACE in our Hearts…
STEP 1. True Salvation!
STEP 2. Complete Submission! [Oh, how I fall short here]
FOUR TESTS TO TAKE OF “GRACIOUS SPEECH”:
IS IT TRUE???
“…seasoned with SALT…”
SALT was used for preserving and purifying.
SEASONED SPEECH is truthful. Ephesians 4:15…tells us to SPEAK the truth in love.
Before you repeat a statement, make sure it is TRUE!!!! Someone said, “I believe half of what I see, and nothing of what I hear!”
Just because someone said it doesn’t make it true!
It is easy to jump to a wrong conclusion. PROVERBS 14:25 says “A truthful witness saves lives, but a deceitful witness speaks lives [and endangers lives]” (Amp.)
Before you BELIEVE something…Before you REPEAT something…Make sure it’s true!!!!
IS IT COMPLETE?
It is easy while sitting with family and friends at the dinner table, to get half of the Story.
What is said may be true, but it is not COMPLETE!
Before you swallow your “gum” while listening to the conversation; before you say something, make sure you get ALL the story!
IS IT NECESSARY????
What you say may be TRUE, it may be COMPLETE, but is it NECESSARY???
Ephesians 4:15 “Speaking the truth in Love” !!!!
(1 Peter 4:8): “Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others].”
Some of the most hurtful words I’ve heard over time have been preceded by the words, “it’s the truth” or, “it’s real!”
Just because it is the TRUTH, doesn’t make it necessary! There are times when silence is golden!
IS IT KIND???
(Rom. 12:10) – “Love one another with brotherly affection [as members of one family], giving precedence and showing honor to one another.”
(Eph. 4:31-32) – “Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment and quarreling and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.”
I hope this blog-POST has been an encouragement to you as it certainly has been for me in study. I needed WISDOM on my ‘gum chewing’ thoughts.
My Pledge, and I Hope Yours in the Upcoming Day…
- Determined to control my tongue!
- Say only good things about others!
- Remember my accountability! (Matthew 12:36)
- Ask the Lord to Help me!
(Psalm 141:3) “Set a guard, O Lord, before my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips.”
REMEMBERING THE POINTS OF INSTRUCTION FROM COLOSSIANS 4:5-6:
BE WISE (Prov. 4:5, 7; 9:10; 11:30; 14:27) –
- The principal thing is to GET WISDOM.
- The fear of the Lord is the beginning of WISDOM.
- Seeing souls saved around you is a result of and our evidence of WISDOM.
BE READY (1 Peter 3:15-16) –
- A good heart.
- A good conscience.
- Good CONDUCT.
BE KIND (2 Timothy 2:24-26) –
- Be gentle.
- Be patient.
- Be humble.
BE RESPONSIBLE (2 Tim. 4:1-5; James 2:14-17, 5:13-16, 16-20; Mark 12:28-37; Galatians 6:10) –
- Preach the Word.
- Fulfill your ministry, whatever that may be.
- Respond to others needs.
Oh, make me Lord, so much like Thee,
My life controlled by power diving,
That I, a shining light may be,
From which Thy grace may ever shine. ~ Robertson
Credits for this BLOG:
Colossians 4:5-6 Commentary by Preceptaustin.
Bible Translations: Amplified Bible (AMP) except where noted in the Text.
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