The Four Needs that are essential to relationships in life:
“Supportive Roles In Marriage”
While doing my investigative study this week regarding “Family Relationships“, I found words that could bring a positive reaction and, a negative reaction to some people. The positive word is “support” and the negative word was “submit“. I then went to The New Roger’s THESAURUS in Dictionary Form and looked at the word SUPPORT or SUPPORTIVE. Family relationships, as well as other relationships must include SUPPORT or it will fail.
SUPPORT.—1. Nouns. [act of supporting] advocacy, supporter, endure, maintain, advocate, defensible.
I went to my Expository Dictionary of Bible Words, for a WORD based understanding of the often maligned word of “submit“.
I Peter 3:1-8 [READ]. The King James Version of scripture, of the first verse reads, “LIKEWISE, YE wives, be in subjection to your own husbands…” The Amplified Version, the New American Standard, and the New International Version uses the word “submissive” in place of being in “subjection” to your husband or “submitting“. The Greek word for “subjection” is “Hupeotasso“; Hupeo means under; Tasso means to arrange or put in order.”
Turn next to I Timothy 3:4 “One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;” King James Bible. In the Amplified Version and the NAS Version, instead of the word “subjection”, they say, “keeping his children under control…”. This covers the RELATIONSHIP of parents and children.
Luke 2:51, “And He [Jesus] went down with them [Mary and Joseph] and came to Nazareth and was [habitually] obedient to them…”. JESUS was “subject” unto His earthly parents. Jesus volunteered to His Heavenly Father the authority that was set in motion.
Christian Wives in Relationship:
Christian wives are to be “Supportive” to their husbands. In my word searching, I could not find in the New Testament, where the WORD says that a wife is to love their husband. “NOW WAIT A MINUTE HERE” Is that right?
If the wife is truly “supportive” and “builds him up”, this will communicate her love and it also separates the marriage roles in relationship. Husband stop your grinning here. I’ll get to you later.
How to use your “authority” or “power”, as a wife in the marriage relationship.
That’s right ladies. God has given you “authority“; “power” in the marriage covenant. God’s word tells how to use it and the results shown in the marriage relationship. I Peter 3:2 says, “When they [your husband] observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, TOGETHER with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes; to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].” Amplified Version.
SUPPORT shown to others by “living your life inside out”.
I Peter 3:3-4 [Read]… says, “Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;”
I like the Amplified Version of this verse in I Peter. It brackets the adverb “merely” and the adjective “elaborate“, to give the meaning more clarification and understanding. Some laddies might think this verse excludes make-up, all jewelry and dirty, stringy, unkept hair. The marriage relationship would be strained if you decide God wants you to look unattractive to your husbands. The verse actually is saying, “women should be a living epistle”, in order not to be like the Greek and Roman women; spending all or too much time investing all their time “outwardly”. You’re to beautify yourself with an inward beauty, which then affects your outward beauty; “inside out living”.
“Meekness” in a “Supportive Marriage”
The Greek word used for “meek”: “Praus”, “It is an adjectival form conveying the sense of “meek,” indicating an ATTITUDE of quiet, reverent, and humble submission to the will and purpose of God [not your will].” the Expository Dictionary of Bible Words–Word Studies for Key English Bible Words Based on the Hebrew and Greek Texts.
To be MEEK in a relationship means, an attitude that is…
5. Forgiveness–Power under control.
THE OPPOSITE of the above qualities is, ANGER!
ALL of the above qualities, items 1 thru 6, show maturity and if you are going to be meek, it will come with a price.
I Peter 3:4:
“BUT let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the light of …their husband..NOT! “in the sight of God”.
Husbands and Wives are to be Co-Rulers in a Marriage.
The families of old became “co-rulers” after walking in the pathway of sacrificial blood. They made a vow or covenant in the ceremony; and afterwards, exchanged their coats that showed the authority given was now shared. Although today’s marriage ceremonies are a far-cry from what was first practiced over 4000 years ago [“Those Were The Days”], the meaning of marital relationship should not be forgotten bot compared too.
Husbands are to continually educate themselves in marriage.
I Peter 3:6-7 “It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you…” “In the same way you married men…”
You men who are reading this blog today are probably thinking that I Peter 3:6, is still referring to the wives, and you are right! But husbands, you need to look more closely at the verse given. Your wife can’t follow your guidance if you are not a “spiritual leader” in the family; if you are not practicing your “spiritual authority” that God has given you. If you don’t show the LEADERSHIP, your God-given ROLES, and DUTIES in the marriage relationship, you really can’t expect her to obey; providing a “prosperous” marriage. And in all honesty, I wouldn’t expect her to call you “master” or “lord”. Just a little WORD DETECTIVE humor.
INVESTING TIME in Marriage for Husbands.
A lawyer goes to law school, to be able to practice law. A doctor goes to Med School in order to practice medicine. Investing time in God’s Word, with the same earnestness as lawyers and doctors, will teach you to be a spiritual guide, leader, and parent in the family of God.
Husbands are more than just “partners” in marriage; I Peter 3:7 is in the next blog.